I think the problem is that people feel that they should be able to forget or get over things. When you love someone and give them a piece of your heart, I don’t believe you ever get it back.
You will always love them and care about them, the solution is time. Time makes it easier to look at it level headed and realize that although you love and care about them, the relationship wasn’t meant to be. It didn’t work out for a reason, because the two of you were not compatible.
Whether that’s because he/she had no ambition in life and you did, or because he/she treated people like crap and you were caring, you aren’t compatible for whatever those reasons are.
I still think about my broken love, I still love Her and I know I ALWAYS will. I will never forget about the times we shared. she hurt me and I know, I forgiven and taken her back so many times only for me to return to being the same insecure miserable person, I know I have to dig my heels and move on with my life.
I have spent many days crying. I know that I will never forget her and I will always love the person I knew she could be.
Most people return because they see that inner person and they love them. They know their potential and want so bad to be good enough to help them, to be loved enough by that person for them to change.
The problem is that those people don’t love themselves enough to change, so no matter how much you love them, it will never work. And at some point you simply become an enabler, you keep going back and they see that they don’t have to change in order to get what they want.
I know time is not the answer i want to hear right now. It gives me no control and i want so badly to stop hurting. However, time DOES heal all wounds. I just have to learn what healing means for me and realize that healing isn’t forgetting or not caring anymore but recognizing how to deal with those memories and accepting them.